Thursday, July 22, 2010
Peace
It's 1:18am and I'm sitting here missing my midgies (Ha on that 5 minutes!) but I am also feeling something I haven't felt in a very, very long time ... peace. I can breathe in without my chest hurting, I can smile without wanting to cry. I am finally at peace.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Love
"Choosing to trust that you have value and lack nothing and need no validation and then choosing to give love in every situation creates rich relationships that last." - My friend Kimberly Sayer
Monday, July 19, 2010
Goals
Michael A. July 19 at 12:16pm
Kim, its just a thought but it may help. You said your weight loss goals. If I told you what ever your goals are you will achieve. So the only way for you to achieve the goal of weight loss is to lose the weight, gain it back and lose it again, since your goal is to "lose weight".
Have you ever noticed there are people like me who say I live debt free, but there are many others who have the goal of paying off their debt, but they never become debt free.
Its a simple mind shift, what I am saying may be worth looking into. The goal of weighing 160 lbs or the goal of losing 100 lbs, one will get you and keep you where you want to be, the other will get you there over and over again. I have been setting and achieving goals for quite a few years, and what I have noticed is that some of my goal setting has trapped me, some has helped me become the man I am today.
If I am over stepping on anything let me know, I don't want to interfere with the fire you have. I just wanted to express some love and encouragement, you are fighting the same fight I am, and I want you to succeed. I know you don't know me well, but I am in a good place, I am not talking about Africa, but I am more in lined with the reason god put me on earth today than I was yesterday. .
Kimberly Kerns Safford July 19 at 12:43pm
Wait wait ... So I want to express my goal as "Weigh 160lbs" RATHER than LOSE 100lbs? Right? Just want to make sure I get it, I'm a little slow in the head today.
Michael A. July 19 at 12:57pm
Yes. Set a goal you can live with.
If you can live with losing weight for the rest of your life, set to lose 100 lbs, but just remember, you will gain it back and lose it again. A good example is our moms, they have weight loss goals, but you notice they gain the weight back and then go lose it again. They achieve their goal, they are successful, they lose the weight over and over again, succeeding over and over again.
If you have ever set the goal in your life to lose a few lbs and you gain it back, remember, you succeed in your goal, you were not a failure, when you gained the weight back you may have felt like a failure, but it was just the natural out come of a goal without a limit.
I can give examples of my success and failures at this, but its just a mind shift.
Kimberly Kerns Safford July 19 at 1:17pm
So help me to rephrase my goal. I want to be an 8/10 dress size, whether that means I weigh 140 or 180 I don't really mind the number on the scale, I just want the dress size.
Michael A July 19 at 1:57pm
I like that goal, its solid and you can live with it.
Kim, its just a thought but it may help. You said your weight loss goals. If I told you what ever your goals are you will achieve. So the only way for you to achieve the goal of weight loss is to lose the weight, gain it back and lose it again, since your goal is to "lose weight".
Have you ever noticed there are people like me who say I live debt free, but there are many others who have the goal of paying off their debt, but they never become debt free.
Its a simple mind shift, what I am saying may be worth looking into. The goal of weighing 160 lbs or the goal of losing 100 lbs, one will get you and keep you where you want to be, the other will get you there over and over again. I have been setting and achieving goals for quite a few years, and what I have noticed is that some of my goal setting has trapped me, some has helped me become the man I am today.
If I am over stepping on anything let me know, I don't want to interfere with the fire you have. I just wanted to express some love and encouragement, you are fighting the same fight I am, and I want you to succeed. I know you don't know me well, but I am in a good place, I am not talking about Africa, but I am more in lined with the reason god put me on earth today than I was yesterday. .
Kimberly Kerns Safford July 19 at 12:43pm
Wait wait ... So I want to express my goal as "Weigh 160lbs" RATHER than LOSE 100lbs? Right? Just want to make sure I get it, I'm a little slow in the head today.
Michael A. July 19 at 12:57pm
Yes. Set a goal you can live with.
If you can live with losing weight for the rest of your life, set to lose 100 lbs, but just remember, you will gain it back and lose it again. A good example is our moms, they have weight loss goals, but you notice they gain the weight back and then go lose it again. They achieve their goal, they are successful, they lose the weight over and over again, succeeding over and over again.
If you have ever set the goal in your life to lose a few lbs and you gain it back, remember, you succeed in your goal, you were not a failure, when you gained the weight back you may have felt like a failure, but it was just the natural out come of a goal without a limit.
I can give examples of my success and failures at this, but its just a mind shift.
Kimberly Kerns Safford July 19 at 1:17pm
So help me to rephrase my goal. I want to be an 8/10 dress size, whether that means I weigh 140 or 180 I don't really mind the number on the scale, I just want the dress size.
Michael A July 19 at 1:57pm
I like that goal, its solid and you can live with it.
Tried and True
Justin P July 19 at 12:25pm
Hey Kimberly, regarding your new goal:
Things I read and see over and over and over in weight loss, that is tried and true is this...
1. Drink water with your meals. It aids in digestion, and it makes you feel full, sooner. Even better, drink a small glass BEFORE you eat.
2. Do something (exercise) early to get your body going. (metabolism) and burning some calories. It's hard to get up early. It's worth it. My alarm is set for 4:35. I hate it from 4:35 to about 4:50, then I FREAKING LOVE it that I have a headstart on my day. A 20 minute brisk walk carrying some 1 or 2lb weights may be a good place to start.
3. Do some weight training. More muscles burn calories and fat. "lower" weights and higher reps tone the muscles. Higher weight and less reps builds muscles. Alternate this week by week.
4. Treat your body like a campfire. Keep putting smaller sticks (healthy food) on the fire throughout the day, (it will keep it burning hot) and NOT throwing BIG LOGS on it once at the end of the day, (that would smother the fire)
5. Lastly: "watch the pennies, the dollars will take care of themselves" ... make adjustments here and there, they will add up.
My boss lost 70 lbs over 7 months doing these 5 things.
Good luck!
JP
Hey Kimberly, regarding your new goal:
Things I read and see over and over and over in weight loss, that is tried and true is this...
1. Drink water with your meals. It aids in digestion, and it makes you feel full, sooner. Even better, drink a small glass BEFORE you eat.
2. Do something (exercise) early to get your body going. (metabolism) and burning some calories. It's hard to get up early. It's worth it. My alarm is set for 4:35. I hate it from 4:35 to about 4:50, then I FREAKING LOVE it that I have a headstart on my day. A 20 minute brisk walk carrying some 1 or 2lb weights may be a good place to start.
3. Do some weight training. More muscles burn calories and fat. "lower" weights and higher reps tone the muscles. Higher weight and less reps builds muscles. Alternate this week by week.
4. Treat your body like a campfire. Keep putting smaller sticks (healthy food) on the fire throughout the day, (it will keep it burning hot) and NOT throwing BIG LOGS on it once at the end of the day, (that would smother the fire)
5. Lastly: "watch the pennies, the dollars will take care of themselves" ... make adjustments here and there, they will add up.
My boss lost 70 lbs over 7 months doing these 5 things.
Good luck!
JP
Doing
Life's not about expecting, hoping and wishing, it's about doing, being and becoming. It's about the choices you've just made, and the ones you're about to make, it's about the things you choose to say - today. It's about what you're going to do after you finish reading this.
The Beginning
So here it is, Monday morning! The beginning of MY life.
Last night Kydrun, Brylin and I rode our bikes down to Ream's to buy some milk and then back home. We rested while we were at Ream's, I ate an apple and the kids had ice cream cones. My butt hurts today from the bike seat so I am going to have to get a new seat.
The Dr.P is officially out of my life. This will be a journey in and of itself because of the physical and mental withdrawals I will have.
For now, I've decided to take small steps. Forcing myself to eat 3 meals is going to be difficult. I am not accustomed to eating regularly. I've decided rather than to throw myself into the throws of "diet food" I'm going to go for "healthy" and start small. For breakfast this morning I had 1 1/2c of 1% milk, 2 scrabbled eggs and a piece of toast with a bit of butter and jam. Not super low calorie, but normally I wouldn't have eaten until dinner if then.
Today's plan? Go for a walk. I was *going* to ride my bike to my therapist appt today at 3 but my butt hurts so bad right now I can barely sit let alone ride my bike again! I thought about just walking there with the kids, but that's a pretty long walk. I think we'll stick closer to home, maybe walk a mile or so down the road and give carrots to the horses on the way.
Requote from a former blog posting:
On this day, God wants you to know... that 'decision' is only wishful thinking until you take that first irreversible step. You can tell yourself that you have already decided, that nothing now can stop you, but if that step backwards is so much safer than that step forwards, what will hold you true to your path when the going gets tough? Sometimes, the right thing to do is to take that first irreversible step, the one after which you cannot go back. And now, for you, is one of those times.
Last night Kydrun, Brylin and I rode our bikes down to Ream's to buy some milk and then back home. We rested while we were at Ream's, I ate an apple and the kids had ice cream cones. My butt hurts today from the bike seat so I am going to have to get a new seat.
The Dr.P is officially out of my life. This will be a journey in and of itself because of the physical and mental withdrawals I will have.
For now, I've decided to take small steps. Forcing myself to eat 3 meals is going to be difficult. I am not accustomed to eating regularly. I've decided rather than to throw myself into the throws of "diet food" I'm going to go for "healthy" and start small. For breakfast this morning I had 1 1/2c of 1% milk, 2 scrabbled eggs and a piece of toast with a bit of butter and jam. Not super low calorie, but normally I wouldn't have eaten until dinner if then.
Today's plan? Go for a walk. I was *going* to ride my bike to my therapist appt today at 3 but my butt hurts so bad right now I can barely sit let alone ride my bike again! I thought about just walking there with the kids, but that's a pretty long walk. I think we'll stick closer to home, maybe walk a mile or so down the road and give carrots to the horses on the way.
Requote from a former blog posting:
On this day, God wants you to know... that 'decision' is only wishful thinking until you take that first irreversible step. You can tell yourself that you have already decided, that nothing now can stop you, but if that step backwards is so much safer than that step forwards, what will hold you true to your path when the going gets tough? Sometimes, the right thing to do is to take that first irreversible step, the one after which you cannot go back. And now, for you, is one of those times.
Sunday, July 18, 2010
AM
"As you lay in bed drifting off to sleep every night, make it a habit to envision what you "could" do in the future. Don't think about problems & errrands. Imagine possibilities & solutions. See, hear, and feel yourself in the future situation with it done! Imagine the steps in your head. Inspire yourself."
WHAT will YOU envision as you fall asleep?
Watched the movie "The Secret" and now I'm listening to it on my ipod. I discovered that the word "will" has kept me captive for a long time. "I WILL lose weight" "I WILL be happy" ... I finally discovered that the word that I need to use to open up my world is AM "I AM losing weight" "I AM happy!" ...
I AM happy, I AM okay, I AM at peace with myself and my life, I AM tired and going to bed!!
WHAT will YOU envision as you fall asleep?
Watched the movie "The Secret" and now I'm listening to it on my ipod. I discovered that the word "will" has kept me captive for a long time. "I WILL lose weight" "I WILL be happy" ... I finally discovered that the word that I need to use to open up my world is AM "I AM losing weight" "I AM happy!" ...
I AM happy, I AM okay, I AM at peace with myself and my life, I AM tired and going to bed!!
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